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Join a new Circle in the new city!
You need to meet people and build new friendships, so am I.
But you have limited connections in this new place, so am I.
I previously mentioned that you are very unlikely to be the only one who is fresh to the city. There are many people just like you, recently arrived the city and are seeking to meet new friends.
So how do you find each other?
- A very popular meeting people website is: Meetup.com.
Meetup.com has a various of established groups that have regular weekly or monthly events for members to participate. You can choose which groups to join based on your interest and meet likely minds.
At the same time, you are able to explore the city, whether museums, coffee shops, bars, or brunch places, you can always find new pals to go to.
- Another website that I also participate is : couchsurfing.org
I know a lot of people have used Couchsurfing to find a place to crash when they travel. and You should too! It’s easy, save money, and help you connect with people who live in the places that you want to go to. You will gain insights from these folks before you even arrive.
Another feature for couchsurfing is Location Based Groups.
Simply, join the city groups that you moved to, make a post or create an event, and INVITE. Sometimes there are events that others have already created, then you just need to show up!
and Remember, Don’t be afraid to talk to people or accept invitation to have brunch or coffee the second day. They are friendly and more than willing to have a new friend!
Lastly, Having an open mind will help you meet new friends at no time!
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Why you should have a Roommate when moving to a new city
My very first suggestion is to Have a Roommate, when you first move into a new city, especially a city that you don’t really know anyone.
It’s may be true that you are too old to for any roommate drama or things usually don’t go well with a random roommate.
But we are talking about meeting new friends ASAP and, the benefits of having a random roommate outweigh the negative.
I moved to Baltimore roughly 6 months ago and I searched for a roommate prior to my moving on Craigslist. My roommate is also fairly new to the city as well. During the first 2 months living together, we would always invite each other and explore the city together.
I always find myself going out after work with her, to bars, to local events, and of course, meeting new people. Not everyone that I met became my friends, but the chance is you will always find just 1 or 2 people really click and you can expand your network from there.
The lesson is It is always easier to go out with someone else together. You are more motivated because you are INVITED to go. You are not doing all the exploring alone.When you are new to the city, who could you call to go out instantly? Have a roommate is the Golden Key.
(Although I do know plenty of guys would go to bars or eat out alone, but for girls, it is just a little more difficult to do these things by ourselves). We like companies.
I moved out that apartment afterward because we don’t have the same living habits. However, I met one of my very close friends now during that very First Two Months at a bar that I wouldn’t go alone.
So Why would you have a roommate when you first moving to a city?
1. Motivated to go out.
2. Don’t have to go explore alone.
3. Your new roommate will introduce you to her network of friends
4. You are more comfortable to start talking to strangers! and Make Friends!
Tips: there are plenty temporary housing on craigslist, you don’t need to sign an 1 yr lease!
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Prelude: Moving to a New City
Moving to a new city can be exciting and exhausting at the same time.
A brand new chapter of your life suddenly opens. A chance to start a new life, a door to build a new image, and an opportunity to meet new people.
I moved from NorCal to SoCal after high school. Then I moved from the West Coast to the Upstate NY after college. And now I live in the East Coast, of course, another different city.
Nevertheless, I never feel I was alone in a new city.
I often hear stories that people become depressed because they can’t meet anyone. I also often hear people complain that it is too difficult too find a new close friend in a new city. Everyone already has a best friend.
And I agree.
Making new friends are not easy, especially when we are adults, who have a full time job.You need to have an open mind and determined to make the effort to meet people.
Yes, it will take some time, but I’m sure you will not feel alone after just the first couple of weeks.
Although my situation may not be the same as yours, I hope my experience will encourage you to go out and meet new friends as quick as possible.
People are more mobile than ever. Soon you will find out you are not the only one who wants to have new friends!
